Ti Amo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEzpYEuxns4

Romanz Ti Amo

I PROMISE

I promise to be your warm spot to cuddle up to when you feel cold
I promise to be your soft place to land if you should fall
I promise to be the first one to say I am sorry (even if I was right)
I promise to be there for you in all of your times of joy and sorrow
I promise to support you no matter what your decision (even if I don't agree )
I promise to make a new memory with you each and every day
I promise to love you without change.
I promise to make you laugh
I promise to make you cry
I promise to give you strength when you are weak
I promise to cherish you and your love
I promise to compromise with you
I promise to never take your love for granted
I promise to never lose faith in you
I promise to never give you a reason to distrust me
I promise to always trust you
I promise to work with you to resolve our conflicts
I promise to always be proud of you
I promise to never let you feel alone in this world
I promise to find new ways everyday to keep the fires of passion burning
I promise to always keep you as an equal partner
I promise to never say things to you in anger
I promise to be your partner for life
I promise to be your shelter from the storm
I promise you a love everlasting.

(BETER AS DIE KON EK NIE SE NIE - DIS HOE MY HART VOEL)

Beloftes: Dag 3

Vandag is 'n harde dag.  ek kry nie asem nie.  Ekt nie woorde nie.

YOU NEVER KNOW TRUE HAPPINESS UNTIL YOU HAVE TRULY LOVED,
AND YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT PAIN REALLY IS UNTIL YOU HAVE LOST IT.

The love dare: Day 3

Day 3

Love is not selfish

 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love;
give preference to one another in honor. —Romans 12:10

We live in a world that is enamored with “self.” The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. The goal, it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible. The danger from this kind of thinking, however, becomes painfully apparent once inside a marriage relationship.

If there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. Unfortunately it is something that is ingrained into every person from birth. You can see it in the way young children act, and often in the way adults mistreat one another. Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. Yet you cannot point out the many ways your spouse is selfish without admitting that you can be selfish too. That would be hypocritical.

Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful pill to swallow. We are all selfish.

When a husband puts his interests, desires, and priorities in front of his wife, that’s a sign of selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that’s a sign of selfishness. But love “does not seek its own” (1 Corinthians 13:5). Loving couples—the ones who are enjoying the full purpose of marriage—are bent on taking good care of the other flawed human they get to share life with. That’s because true love looks for ways to say “yes.”

One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband or wife, you are still being selfish. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself.

Love is never satisfied except in the welfare of others. You can’t be acting out of real love and selfishness at the same time. Choosing to love your mate will cause you to say “no” to what you want so you can say “yes” to what they need. That’s putting the happiness of your partner above your own. It doesn’t mean you can never experience happiness, but you don’t negate the happiness of your spouse so you can enjoy it yourself.

Love also leads to inner joy. When you prioritize the well-being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfillment that cannot be duplicated by selfish actions. This is a benefit that God created and reserves for those who genuinely demonstrate love. The truth is, when you relinquish your rights for the sake of your mate, you get a chance to lose yourself to the greater purpose of marriage.

Nobody knows you as well as your spouse. And that means no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants and wishes to make sure his or her needs are met.

If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit.

Ask yourself these questions:

• Do I truly want what’s best for my husband or wife?

• Do I want them to feel loved by me?

• Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?

• Do they see me as looking out for myself first?

Whether you like it or not, you have a reputation in the eyes of those around you, especially in the eyes of your spouse. But is it a loving reputation? Remember, your marriage partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. So determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, with your eyes wide open. And when all is said and done, you’ll both be more fulfilled.

“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3).

Today’s Dare

 Whatever you put your time, energy, and
money into will become more important
to you. It’s hard to care for something
you are not investing in. Along with
restraining from negative comments,
buy your spouse something that says,
“I was thinking of you today.”

Pitkos

Colossians 3:13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

To remember that our mouths are powerful tools

Daar is geen logies benadering tot hierdie hamster wat hier in my kop rond hardloop nie.  Ek moet nou skryf...en skryf....en skryf

Ai my pokkelpensie en pokkelboudjies, ek wil begin deur vir jou omverskoning te vra dat ek jou so afgeskeep het.  For so many reason and sometimes for no reason at all, but mostly because I forgot that I need to love you just the way you are.

Live by the sword, die by the sword

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

"Live by the sword, die by the sword" is a metaphorical expression meaning that living one's life in a certain way will, in the end, affect one's destiny. The proverb comes from the Gospel of Matthew, verse 26:52, which describes a follower of Jesus (identified in the Gospel of John as Peter) drawing a sword to defend him against Roman soldiers, but is rebuked by Jesus, who tells him to sheath the weapon:

Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.

—Matthew 26:52, King James Version.

I don't want to live by the sword that is bitter and full of anger, because this poison in my heart is busy killing me.

true love

You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it. - Anonymous

my liefie

Liefde is 'n besluit en nie 'n gevoel nie.  Dit is onselfsugtig, opofferend en veranderend. 

1 Korintiers 13:13 "En nou:  Geloof, Hoop en Liefde bly, hierdie drie.  En die grootste hiervan is die Liefde.

Jou liefde was my krag.  My krag vir soggens opstaan.  En ekt jou so nodig.  Jou liefde het my rede gegee om te leef.  Dit maak my lewe betekenisvol! 

Ek wens ek was meer geduldig.  Ek wens my oorerflike humeur was